Herdle Community Guidelines

Last updated: 24 October 2026

The short version: be good company

Herdle is all about getting offline, trying new things, having fun, and meeting people along the way. We want everyone to have a great time doing it. So we’ve kept this short. In essence, show up, be kind, and look out for each other.

For everyone

Said yes? Show up. Once a host accepts you, they’re counting on you. If something comes up, let them know in the plan chat before you withdraw, as early as you can. Running late? Drop them a message so nobody’s left wondering.

Keep it on Herdle. Every plan has its own chat that only the host and everyone who’s been accepted can see. Use it, at least until you’ve met. Your number stays private, everyone going gets the same updates, and if there’s ever a problem, we can look into it properly.

Be yourself. Use real photos and your real details. Hosts set age and gender preferences for their plans, so keep yours accurate. One account each, and you need to be 18 or over.

Be kind. No harassment, put-downs, or offensive or hateful language, whether you’re at a plan or in the chat. Having a different opinion is fine. Being a jerk isn’t.

Respect who a plan is for. If a host has set age or gender preferences, that’s their call. Please don’t try to get around them.

Keep other people’s stuff private. Once you’re accepted, you’ll see the full address. Keep it to yourself, along with anyone’s personal details and what’s said in the chat.

Ask before you snap. Check people are happy before you take photos of them or post them anywhere.

Bringing friends? You can ask to bring up to three friends when you request to join. If the host accepts, only bring the number they said yes to. Your friends don’t need to be on Herdle, but they do need to be 18 or over, and they’re your responsibility, so fill them in on these guidelines before you go.

Leave the selling at home. No spamming, promoting or selling in plans or chats. If you’re a business keen to be on Herdle, email us at hello@herdle.io.

Look out for each other. Meet somewhere public the first time, sort your own way there and back, and trust your gut. If something feels off, you can leave, no explanation needed. If you’re planning on having a drink, keep it sensible and make sure everyone gets home OK. For more ideas, read our Herdle safety tips.

For hosts

Paint the picture. Say what you’re doing, where, when, and anything people need to bring. If there’s a cost, say so upfront, and where you can, have everyone pay the business directly.

Get back to people. Reply to requests in good time so nobody’s left hanging.

Pick the right size. Set a group size that suits the plan and the place, and remember +1s take up spots too. Once it’s full, the app won’t accept anyone else, so if you’re tempted to edit the number up, think about whether the plan can really take more people.

Plans changed? If you need to cancel, cancel in the app so everyone gets a notification, and post in the plan chat too, as the chat stays open after a plan is cancelled.

Choose somewhere public if you’re meeting people for the first time. If you’re hosting at home, keep the address private so only people you’ve accepted can see it.

Make people feel welcome. Say hi, do some intros, and make sure nobody’s left on the edge of the group.

If something goes wrong

We’ve got your back. If someone didn’t show without a word, or made you uncomfortable, report them in the app. Everyone has an off day, but we want Herdle to be a place where people can count on each other, so we’d rather know. Please report it rather than sorting it out yourself.

We look into every report and take action depending on what happened, from a friendly word or a warning through to a permanent ban. Anything serious goes to the Police.

If you’re ever in danger, call 111 in New Zealand, or your local emergency number if you’re elsewhere. For child safety concerns, see our CSAE Policy.

These guidelines sit alongside our Terms and Conditions. Got questions or ideas? Email us at hello@herdle.io.